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Zig Ziglar ~ What It’s Like at the Top ~

At the Top

At the Top

Hi Folks,

Recently recalled what had heard about Zig Ziglar describing what it’s like to be at the top.

I remember his powerful words as he spoke his “Words of Wisdom”.

His words still echo in my mind.

Ziglar had a way with words, as he painted a very vivid picture of what life can be like when you focus on success from the inside out.

As the story goes, Zig Ziglar was visiting his wife’s sister who had MS.  he likes to fix problems, but this was a problem that simply could not be fixed, and he struggled with that.

On this particular visit, Ziglar was really feeling down and out.  Then, in a moment of inspiration, one that Ziglar described as one of his most creative moments, he wrote what it’s like to be at the top.

And, he wrote his words on the back of a motel bill, which was the only paper he had available at the time.

You are at the Top When …

Here is how Zig Ziglar described what it’s like at the top …

You are at the top when:

You clearly understand that failure is an event, not a person; that yesterday ended last night, and today is a brand-new day.

You have made friends with your past, are focused on the present and areoptimistic about your future.

You know that success doesn’t make you, and failure doesn’t break you.

You are filled with faith, hope and love; and live without anger, greed, guilt, envy or thoughts of revenge.

You are mature enough to delay gratification and shift your focus from your rights to your responsibilities.

You know that failure to stand for what is morally right is the prelude to being the victim of what is criminally wrong.

You are secure in who you are, so you are at peace with God and in fellowship with man.

You have made friends of your adversaries, and have gained the love and respect of those who know you best.

You understand that others can give you pleasure, but genuine happiness comes when you do things for others.

You are pleasant to the grouch, courteous to the rude and generous to the needy.

You love the unlovable, and give hope to the helpless, friendship to the friendless and encouragement to the discouraged.

You can look back in forgiveness, forward in hope, down in compassion and up with gratitude.

You know that “he who would be the greatest among you must become the servant of all.”

You recognize, confess, develop and use your God-given physical, mental and spiritual abilities to the glory of God and for the benefit of mankind.

You stand in front of the Creator of the universe, and He says to you, “Well done, thou good and faithful servant.”

By painting a picture of what life is like when you are at the top, Zig Ziglar also painted a picture of what life is like when you are at the bottom.

Here’s to Living your BEST Boundryless LIfe !!

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Living better through Releasing Stress

Stop Worrying

Stop Worrying

Hi Folks,

Recently chatted with some college buddies about our busy days, family, and the topic
got around to how we relieve stress to be more productive, and just Live better.

Hope this helps you and please leave your ways of releasing stress so we may all learn.

The #1 Way to Chill Out and Relax? Exercise.
If you are feeling particularly stressed, at the very least you should get out and walk it off. Take a walk around the block and get your heart rate elevated. Do some sprints or pushups. Get active.

For maximum stress reduction, exercise frequently. It’s not just about doing something good for yourself and your body. One large study demonstrated that people who regularly exercise have lower levels of anxiety, depression and neuroticism[1]. In general, people who move about regularly feel better about the world and themselves. Even doing just 5 minutes of exercise at various times throughout the day has been shown to release stress AND improve energy too – a Win-Win situation folks.

Write Stuff Down

A Journal is your friend

A Journal is your friend


Make a list to keep track of what you need to do. We can only handle so much information at once. Sometimes, the burden of everything that needs to be done is just too much. What’s the default reaction? For some people it is to shut down.

Consider keeping everything you need to do organized with a list or, if you have something bothering you, write it down. There’re some great applications to help this too.

One study in the Journal of Psychology took a look at the experience of college students and their ability to cope with and manage stress through list making. The study determined that students who made lists perceived that they had more control over their time. The result? They were less stressed[2].

It’s all about showing yourself that you are in control. Make a list, and you will feel better if you’re stressed out.

Eat the Right Foods

Healthy Eating

Healthy Eating


It’s hard to prove that specific foods lead to increased stress. What’s easy to prove is that while you are already stressed, you tend to eat more food. Eating more could cause even more stress problems, especially if you have a specific nutrition goal.

Consider a recent study that tied eating behavior to stress levels. When stressed, 73% of the people in the study ate more food than they would have in an unstressed state, regardless of gender[3].

Don’t Be Afraid To Treat Yourself

Give Yourself a treat ~ a wonderful Life

Give Yourself a treat ~ a wonderful Life


This one is tied into food as well. An article published in Psychology & Behavior determined that stress and resultant overeating associated with stress is tied directly to the body’s reward system.

Here is how it works—you are stressed out so you eat, something your body sees as a reward, and your stress starts to go away[4]. Use this as a way to eat healthier.

refreshing Yogurt & Fruit Salad

refreshing Yogurt & Fruit Salad

For example, make a refreshing fruit salad, add some fresh yogurt to it. Take 5.. take a 5 minute break, while deep breathing, visualize yourself successfully completing a task…then…Reward yourself with that yogurt-fruit salad.

Don’t be afraid to reward yourself. It doesn’t have to be about food either. You can reward yourself with anything, you just want to be sure to let your body and mind understand that, as you complete a particularly stressful day or task, that you are going to provide a reward.

Enjoy Life !

Enjoy Life !

Here’s to Living a Boundryless Life !!

sources for further reading:

[1]http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0091743505002331
[2]http://psycnet.apa.org/journals/edu/82/4/760/
[3]http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0031938498003229
[4]http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0031938407001278

For the Woman in your Life

Enjoy the Moment - Together !

Enjoy the Moment – Together !

Hi folks,

Having recently noticed have a lot of posts, but none for the Lady in our lives.

Here’s some insight into us Guys, done with Love,  in the hopes to better understand us oftentimes complex, men of few words, type of guys.

Women – This is for you !

Men Say ‘I Love You’ With Actions

Some men prefer to show their feelings through actions rather than words. Your guy may say “I love you” by fixing things around the house, tidying up the yard, or even taking out the trash — anything that makes your world a better place.

Men Really Do Take Commitment Seriously

Men have a reputation for being afraid to commit. But the evidence suggests men take marriage seriously. They may take longer to commit because they want to make sure they are on-board for good. In a survey of currently married men, 90% say they would marry the same woman again.

He Really Is Listening

When you’re listening to someone talk, you probably chime in with a “yes” or “I see” every now and then. It’s your way of saying, “I’m listening.” But some guys don’t do this. Just because a man isn’t saying anything doesn’t mean he’s not listening. He may prefer to listen quietly and think about what you’re saying.

Shared Activities Form Bonds

Men strengthen their relationships with their partners through doing things together, more than by sharing thoughts or feelings. For many men, activities like sports and sex make them feel closer to their partner. So, find an activity you enjoy doing together. For example, creative French or Italian cooking, hiking, mini-vacation for some quiet or active time together, etc. The best part, Be Creative in choosing what you’ll enjoy doing together makes it all the more fun !

Enjoy sharing activities together

Enjoy sharing activities together

Men Need Time for Themselves

While shared activities are important, men also need time for themselves. Whether your guy enjoys golf, gardening, or working out at the gym, encourage him to pursue his hobbies, while you make time for your own. When both partners have space to nurture their individuality, they have more to give to each other.

Men Learn From Their Fathers

If you want to know how a man will act in a relationship, get to know his dad. How they are with each other and how the father relates to the mother can predict how a man will relate to his wife. As the saying goes … Like father – Like son ~

Men Let Go Faster Than Women

Women tend to remember negative experiences longer and may have lingering feelings of stress, anxiety, or sadness. In contrast, men are less likely to dwell on unpleasant events and tend to move on more quickly. So while you may still want to talk about last night’s argument, your guy may have already forgotten about it. This is where being understanding and seeing each other’s point of view can help.

Men Don’t Pick Up on Subtle Cues

Men are more likely to miss subtle signals like tone of voice or facial expressions. And they are especially likely to miss sadness on a woman’s face. If you want to make sure your guy gets the message, be direct.

Men Respond to Appreciation

Showing appreciation for your guy can make a big difference in the way he acts. Take parenting: Studies show that fathers are more involved in care-giving when their wives value their involvement and see them as competent.

Most Men Think About Sex … A Lot

OK, so maybe this one is no secret. Most men under age 60 think about sex at least once a day, compared with only a quarter of women. And that’s not all. Men fantasize about sex nearly twice as often as women do, and their fantasies are much more varied. Here is where having a romantic weekend at a B & B can help. Create your fantasy love spot, then enjoy it together !

Men Find Sex Significant

It’s a myth that most men think sex is just sex. For many, sex is a very important act between two committed people. And just like most women, men find sexual intimacy to be most satisfying within a committed relationship. One reason is that long-term partners know how to please one another better than strangers do. Enjoy a quiet time together, romantic evening, make a date, then lavish each other while finding ways to please each other.

He Likes It When You Initiate Sex

Most guys feel as though they’re the ones who always initiate sex. But they also like to be pursued and wish their partner would take the lead more often. Don’t be shy about letting your guy know you’re in the mood. Initiating sex some of the time may lead to a higher level of satisfaction for both of you. Here’s the woman’s opportunity to enjoy being romantically creative.

Guys Aren’t Always Up for Sex

Men, much to many women’s surprise, aren’t always in the mood for sex. Just like women, men are often stressed by the demands of work, family, and paying the bills. And stress is a big libido crusher. When a guy says, “not tonight,” it doesn’t mean he’s lost interest in you. He just means he doesn’t want to have sex right then. This is a BIG one. And, when this occurs, just enjoy snuggling, watching a movie together, some hot chocolate. Enjoy each other in ways outside of sex, is a good foundation, to building a long loving relationship, based not just on sex, but on mutual understanding, as well as building loving memories together too.

Be creative  in expressing your love each day ~

Be creative in expressing your love each day ~

Men Like Pleasing Their Partner

Your pleasure is important to your man. But he won’t know what you want unless you tell him. Too many women feel uncomfortable talking about what they like and don’t like. If you can tell him clearly in a way that doesn’t bruise his ego, he’ll listen. Because he knows he’ll feel good if you feel good. Encourage giving a massage, while telling where to massage more, gentler, slower, you get the idea.

Guys Get Performance Anxiety

Most men get performance anxiety on occasion, especially as they age. Your guy may worry about his body, technique, and stamina. If you can help him learn to relax and stay focused on the pleasures of the moment, sex will become less stressful. This can actually help both ways. As you both let go of feeling have to have sex, and more on loving touches, enjoying the moment without expectations, can go a long way to building a more relaxed loving atmosphere for you both.

Men. like Women, need to feel loved

If a man doesn’t feel loved and appreciated in his relationship, he may turn to burying himself in work. Another may develop a fixation on sports or video games. To avoid this, take time DAILY to express love and appreciation for each other. Even through little ways, can make a Huge positive difference !

He’s Vested in You

Most men realize there’s a lot to lose if a long-term relationship goes sour — not just each other’s company, but the entire life you’ve built together. If you’re willing to work to strengthen your marriage, chances are your man will be, too. Each day, do something that builds on the love of your marriage. For example, do something unexpected for each other. Be creative – It’s more fun !!

Hope to hear from men and women readers on your thoughts and feedback too.

Here’s to enjoying a Boundryless Loving Marriage together !!

Enjoy exploring and building your love - Together <3

Enjoy exploring and building your love – Together ❤

2014 Success Tips – Part 2

How Bad to You Want your Dream ? !

How Bad do You Want your Dream ? !

Hey there Folks,

Here is the second part of Success tips for attaining your 2014 goals.

Remember, you don’t have to jump in and try doing all these tips in one day.

You could start by adding one tip a day, or even a week. Then before you know it….

You’ll have built up a Momentum of Success that helps carry you toward your goals.

Well, without further ado, here’s some more tips for ya …..

Keeping a journal is like the phrase “Preparation Meets Opportunity”, with a journal, ; one for your planning, scheduling, and working ideas. The other for your big ideas, thoughts, and Personal goals.

Things become more REAL when you take the time to write them down.

You’re taking the time to Think it, Write it, AND Read it.  3 important steps of ANY plan. Get in the habit of writing everything down.

Have a To-Do List? Write it down!

Have a Goal? Write it down!

Have a Dream? Write it down!

 

Measure stuff.

If it’s important enough for you to be spending your time on, then it needs to be measured. SO….. Get in the habit of measuring your actions and results, you’ll develop a playbook for what works and what doesn’t.

Do it in 90 … of course you know I mean your work … Right !

Schedule tasks into blocks of time. Respect the time you sit in front of the computer.

It’s amazing how quickly time can zip by if you’re not disciplined in this respect. There are thousands of distractions online (Facebook, YouTube, Email, etc).

Keep a stopwatch nearby. Focus on a 90 minute blocks of work. Once your 90 minutes are up, take an “active” break (exercise to get your blood pumping).

Not only will you get a lot more done, but you will find your work much more fulfilling and rewarding.

 

Equally Important … Take active breaks.

In between those 90 minutes of Doing It time …. take “active” breaks in between your 90 minute blocks of work.

This doesn’t need to be anything extreme, maybe just some light stretching and walking to get your blood pumping.

If still in between work, make sure the activity you do doesn’t take you away from getting back and finishing the job at hand.

 

Wake up early.

This reminds me of the phrase; “The early bird catches the worm”.  It can be tough for many people, but if you study extremely successful people, you’ll quickly discover that the great majority have the habit of waking up early in the morning before the rest of the world.

 

This is ALWAYS important and helps keep us and the world in perspective…..Put your family first.

Here’s a big one to lay on you …

Always put family first, even if the only family you’ve got is close friends.

When you focus on serving and doing things for others, outside your own personal gain, you’ll quickly discover you feel a lot more fulfilled and accomplished.

Finding you purpose often has to do with this habit.

 

Work harder than your competition.

Success is inevitable if you constantly outwork your competition. Make this your mantra and you’ll find yourself reaching your goals at record speed!

If it doesn't challenge you ... It won't change you !

If it doesn’t challenge you … It won’t change you !

 

Use a big white board.

This habit is probably my favorite out of the whole list!

In fact, I’ve got not one but TWO white boards. One is a calendar white board to write daily goals on, while the other is your standard white board to write or draw….YES I said draw…..since our brains work amazingly well with pictures (Google It on “Mind Mapping”)

Use a giant white board to keep your goals close and visible to you while working.

When you goals become crystal clear in your mind, it becomes so much easier to attain them.

 

Share your dream…don’t just visualize…. VERBALIZE !!

Get in the habit of speaking your dreams and goals out loud.

Speaking your dreams gives them life!

This habit becomes even more powerful when the sharing takes place among like minded people.

Surround yourself with people who Inspire and Motivate you.

Surround yourself with people who will build you up. If people around you are constantly tearing you down, then separate yourself from that environment as quickly as possible.

Remember, you will become the average of the five people you hang out with the most.

 

Remember…. Keep a healthy body.

Another Big One…. yet so often forgotten!

Believe it or not, a healthy body is tied to your wallet.

It becomes really hard to maintain a healthy mind when your body, your mind’s home, isn’t working properly !

 

Spend your money only on things that will fuel your dream.

Best, especially at first,  to avoid spending your money on “things” such as cars, clothes, vacations, etc.

Instead, invest your money into personal development along with those things that will fuel your business growth!

 

Every Successful person has done this one … Make a sacrifice !

Attaining success is all about delayed gratification!

Get in the habit of sacrificing “things” in order to acquire the life you so desire!

The road to success isn’t one of luxury and excess! Instead, it’s all about learning about self-control, sacrifice, hard work and discipline!

 

Remember to do this each month…. Review your journals .. they are one of your Best Friends !

Get in the habit of writing in a journal …. then … reviewing what you’ve written. This helps you materialize your thoughts.

 

Always finish your day with what I like to call…. Attitude of Gratitude. Again, using your journal, write down five things you’re thankful for today. 

Develop a habit of being grateful. It’s proven that people who are happy and grateful achieve far more than negative and pessimistic people!

Count your blessings. The mind is a powerful thing. When focused on the right things (your blessings), it has a way of multiplying what it focuses on.

Most of all, each day, remember to FEEL the Rain ~

Remember to Feel the Rain ~
Remember to Feel the Rain ~

Eat to beat Stress ~

Eating to reduce stress to live Happily

Eating to reduce stress to live Happily

 Hi Folks,

Was chatting with my friends the other day after playing  Tai Chi ~ Qigong.
Our discussion was about how this time of the year gets stressful with holiday shopping, busy traffic  on top of the daily stress we may encounter at work or home. What came out of the talk was how can we naturally help our body deal with stress.
This does NOT  have to be you !

This does NOT have to be you !

Well, that lead to our discussing the role of our adrenal glands in handling our body’s stress and adrenal foods.
You see folks, the adrenal glands are small and sit just above the kidneys. These little glands are responsible for your body’s response to stress. They create, release, and regulate hormones—like cortisol and adrenaline—that help you cope with stress.

The adrenal glands evolved to help us deal with danger, life-threatening situations, and times when we need to be quicker, sharper, stronger, and faster. They are a large part of the fight or flight response that prepares muscles to move quickly and violently while shutting down unnecessary bodily functions. Heart and lung actions accelerate, digestion slows, tear and saliva production shuts down, and energy nutrients are released for quick use.

Our modern lifestyle has altered when and how often stress factors affect us. We are not very likely to be hunted by a tiger on our morning commute, wrestle a rival for dominance during a board meeting, or chase down a mammoth for lunch. But this doesn’t mean that the adrenal glands are less active.

Our bodies were designed to deal with short bursts of stress like those described above. Unfortunately, we’ve modernized stress, making it more constant, and the body has a hard time distinguishing between life-threatening stress and any other kind of stress. The frustration of traffic during our commute, the presentation during the board meeting, the short lunch where we rush to down something, the responsibilities, the financial strains, and the deadlines all pile up and your body acts like it is in imminent danger, no matter the source of stress or whether it is physical or emotional.

Modern stress is not the short and occasional thing our bodies are prepared for. It is frequent, prolonged, and often very intense. This overstimulates the adrenal glands, leaving them unable to meet our needs and resulting in adrenal fatigue. Adding to the stresses of our lives are infections, trauma, poor diet, anxiety, depression, and prescription drugs. These all can make it harder for your adrenal glands to keep up. So what are the symptoms of adrenal fatigue?

  • Fatigue, even after adequate sleep
  • Craving salty and sweet foods
  • Unexplained pain in back or neck
  • Inability to handle stress
  • Low stamina
  • Difficulty waking
  • Normal energy levels arriving in the evening
  • Impaired immune system
  • Consistently low blood pressure
  • Blood pressure drops initially when standing
  • Foggy feeling, impaired memory, difficulty focusing
  • Sensitivity to cold

There are many more symptoms, but these are the more commonly recognized. You can easily test yourself for adrenal fatigue by checking your blood pressure while lying down and then immediately upon standing. If it drops by quite a few points, your adrenal glands may be struggling. Here are a few things that can help.

Reduce Stress – Take some time and let some of your stress go. Breathing exercises help and so does yoga, meditation, or tai chi.

Sleep – Get enough sleep each night and take a few naps during the day when you can. This will let your body recover, catch up, and rebuild stores.

Avoid Sugar – Refined sugar and processed foods make adrenal fatigue worse as they cause sugar spikes that burn through cortisol.

Good Fats – Most hormones are composed of good fats that your body needs. Avoid saturated fats and trans fats, but eat healthy fats like those found in seeds, nuts, and avocados. Chia seeds are a great option.

Potassium Rich Foods – The adrenal glands produce aldosterone, which helps control mineral balance in the body. Potassium and salt levels can get imbalanced if the adrenal glands aren’t doing well. Go for seaweed and sea vegetables, sunflower seeds, almonds, parsley, avocado, garlic, and brazil nuts.

Light on Fruit – Fruits contain a lot of natural sugars that can still cause some bumps in blood sugar levels. Stick with fruits that aren’t super sugary and that contain a good amount of fiber and water to balance things out. Think papaya, mango, plums, pears, kiwi, apples, cherries, and a small amount of grapes.

Calcium, Vitamin A, and Vitamin C – Vegetables and dark greens are a great source for some of the vitamins that will help your body heal, recover, and get back to normal. Carrots, broccoli, kale, parsley, oranges, turnip greens, and asparagus are a good place to get all three of these.

Magnesium – Magnesium is used in thousands of processes within the body and plays a part in the formation and function of hundreds of enzymes. Magnesium is important to muscles, sleep, and controlling the release of stress hormones. Magnesium is found in sunflower seeds, nuts, brown rice, wild rice, lentils, and peaches.

Sea Salt – Many people suffering from adrenal fatigue also crave salt. Our modern diet contains way too much sodium. It is a good idea to avoid high sodium foods, but give yourself the salt your body needs to re-balance fluids. Choose a good natural sea salt with minerals and add it to your food as needed.

Protein – You need healthy protein to rebuild enzymes. Lean more toward plant-based protein sources and maybe some deep sea fish, but avoid animal protein as it can put more stress on your adrenal glands and kidneys. Go for seeds, nuts, whole grains, hemp seeds, chia seeds, avocado, legumes, and lentils.

Whole Grains – Avoid processed grains and anything made with sugar and white flour. Stick with complex carbs that are paired with fiber. This will release energy slowly all day, so your stamina stays up and you get less tired. Whole grains, brown rice, wild rice, barley, oats, and quinoa are a good source of good carbs.

So here’s to nourishing our bodies to handle daily stress and live Boundryless Lives !!

Enjoy Adrenal foods to reduce stress and increase enjoying loving life

Enjoy Adrenal foods to reduce stress and increase enjoying loving life

Do what you Love ~ Love what you Do !

 

Love what  You Do ~ Do what you Love !

Love what You Do ~ Do what you Love !

Hi folks,

My friends and I were chatting recently after doing some hill sprints, chinups and hand-stand pushups.

This was followed by some Qigong and Tai-Chi, after we all felt so refreshed while sipping our green tea.

We each got to mentioning about what we love to do and how important it is to do what you love.

 I’ll tell you a secret to loving what I do: if I think my work will help someone, there’s no better motivator.

I see lots of people, every day, who don’t like the work they’re doing. If I could help a few of them find work they love, it would make my year.

So this is a mini-guide to finding the work you love. Because it’s waiting for you — you just need to find it and go get it.

We’re going to do this in just a few simple steps.

Ready?

Let’s go!

Step 1: Believe in yourself. The main reason people don’t try to do work they love, don’t even look for it, is because they don’t think they’re good enough. That’s hogwash. We’ve been bamboozled and hornswoggled into believing we are insufficient, that it’s scary to fail, when neither is remotely true.

You are not only sufficient, you are Perfect!  However …  failure is inevitable, but it is how you succeed to be perfect step by step. Failure is how we learn to get better. It’s a step towards success.

I highly recommend you watch this TEDx talk from Scott Dinsmore for some inspiration … it’s the best 18 minutes you could invest in your life right now: http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=jpe-LKn-4gM

 

The Work You Love is Waiting For You

I’ll tell you a secret to loving what you do….

if I think my work will help someone ….

THAT is the Best motivator !

 

Step 2: Find the work you love. This is probably the most difficult step for many people, because they don’t know what they want to do.

Actually, this step is the fun part. You get to try different things. Fail often. Explore yourself. Learn about what you’re good at. Help people.

“A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them.” by John C. Maxwell.

 

Step 3: Take the leap. It’s the scariest, most exciting thing ever to take the leap and do work you love.  It’s totally worth it.

Making a living doing what you want isn’t exactly easy, but it’s not as hard as you might think. Create something that will help people. Do it the best you can, and keep getting better. Make it uniquely you, and tell your story. Don’t be a marketer or push yourself on people, but really help them and they’ll come to you.

What are you waiting for? I’ve given you three steps, so you should be taking the first step already. If not, get moving!

The work you love is out there, just waiting for you.

But it won’t find youyou have to go looking for it.

Live Boundrylessly by loving the your work ~ doing what you love!

Love What  You Do by Steve Jobs

Love What You Do by Steve Jobs

 

Happy Mother’s Day !!

Happy Mother's Day !!

Happy Mother’s Day !!

Wishing all those very special women in our lives a Happy Mother’s Day !! Let’s show our Mom how much Love, Appreciation and Respect we have for her ~ The woman who unconditionally loves and gives without asking for anything in return ~ Mom ♥