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For the Woman in your Life

Enjoy the Moment - Together !

Enjoy the Moment – Together !

Hi folks,

Having recently noticed have a lot of posts, but none for the Lady in our lives.

Here’s some insight into us Guys, done with Love,  in the hopes to better understand us oftentimes complex, men of few words, type of guys.

Women – This is for you !

Men Say ‘I Love You’ With Actions

Some men prefer to show their feelings through actions rather than words. Your guy may say “I love you” by fixing things around the house, tidying up the yard, or even taking out the trash — anything that makes your world a better place.

Men Really Do Take Commitment Seriously

Men have a reputation for being afraid to commit. But the evidence suggests men take marriage seriously. They may take longer to commit because they want to make sure they are on-board for good. In a survey of currently married men, 90% say they would marry the same woman again.

He Really Is Listening

When you’re listening to someone talk, you probably chime in with a “yes” or “I see” every now and then. It’s your way of saying, “I’m listening.” But some guys don’t do this. Just because a man isn’t saying anything doesn’t mean he’s not listening. He may prefer to listen quietly and think about what you’re saying.

Shared Activities Form Bonds

Men strengthen their relationships with their partners through doing things together, more than by sharing thoughts or feelings. For many men, activities like sports and sex make them feel closer to their partner. So, find an activity you enjoy doing together. For example, creative French or Italian cooking, hiking, mini-vacation for some quiet or active time together, etc. The best part, Be Creative in choosing what you’ll enjoy doing together makes it all the more fun !

Enjoy sharing activities together

Enjoy sharing activities together

Men Need Time for Themselves

While shared activities are important, men also need time for themselves. Whether your guy enjoys golf, gardening, or working out at the gym, encourage him to pursue his hobbies, while you make time for your own. When both partners have space to nurture their individuality, they have more to give to each other.

Men Learn From Their Fathers

If you want to know how a man will act in a relationship, get to know his dad. How they are with each other and how the father relates to the mother can predict how a man will relate to his wife. As the saying goes … Like father – Like son ~

Men Let Go Faster Than Women

Women tend to remember negative experiences longer and may have lingering feelings of stress, anxiety, or sadness. In contrast, men are less likely to dwell on unpleasant events and tend to move on more quickly. So while you may still want to talk about last night’s argument, your guy may have already forgotten about it. This is where being understanding and seeing each other’s point of view can help.

Men Don’t Pick Up on Subtle Cues

Men are more likely to miss subtle signals like tone of voice or facial expressions. And they are especially likely to miss sadness on a woman’s face. If you want to make sure your guy gets the message, be direct.

Men Respond to Appreciation

Showing appreciation for your guy can make a big difference in the way he acts. Take parenting: Studies show that fathers are more involved in care-giving when their wives value their involvement and see them as competent.

Most Men Think About Sex … A Lot

OK, so maybe this one is no secret. Most men under age 60 think about sex at least once a day, compared with only a quarter of women. And that’s not all. Men fantasize about sex nearly twice as often as women do, and their fantasies are much more varied. Here is where having a romantic weekend at a B & B can help. Create your fantasy love spot, then enjoy it together !

Men Find Sex Significant

It’s a myth that most men think sex is just sex. For many, sex is a very important act between two committed people. And just like most women, men find sexual intimacy to be most satisfying within a committed relationship. One reason is that long-term partners know how to please one another better than strangers do. Enjoy a quiet time together, romantic evening, make a date, then lavish each other while finding ways to please each other.

He Likes It When You Initiate Sex

Most guys feel as though they’re the ones who always initiate sex. But they also like to be pursued and wish their partner would take the lead more often. Don’t be shy about letting your guy know you’re in the mood. Initiating sex some of the time may lead to a higher level of satisfaction for both of you. Here’s the woman’s opportunity to enjoy being romantically creative.

Guys Aren’t Always Up for Sex

Men, much to many women’s surprise, aren’t always in the mood for sex. Just like women, men are often stressed by the demands of work, family, and paying the bills. And stress is a big libido crusher. When a guy says, “not tonight,” it doesn’t mean he’s lost interest in you. He just means he doesn’t want to have sex right then. This is a BIG one. And, when this occurs, just enjoy snuggling, watching a movie together, some hot chocolate. Enjoy each other in ways outside of sex, is a good foundation, to building a long loving relationship, based not just on sex, but on mutual understanding, as well as building loving memories together too.

Be creative  in expressing your love each day ~

Be creative in expressing your love each day ~

Men Like Pleasing Their Partner

Your pleasure is important to your man. But he won’t know what you want unless you tell him. Too many women feel uncomfortable talking about what they like and don’t like. If you can tell him clearly in a way that doesn’t bruise his ego, he’ll listen. Because he knows he’ll feel good if you feel good. Encourage giving a massage, while telling where to massage more, gentler, slower, you get the idea.

Guys Get Performance Anxiety

Most men get performance anxiety on occasion, especially as they age. Your guy may worry about his body, technique, and stamina. If you can help him learn to relax and stay focused on the pleasures of the moment, sex will become less stressful. This can actually help both ways. As you both let go of feeling have to have sex, and more on loving touches, enjoying the moment without expectations, can go a long way to building a more relaxed loving atmosphere for you both.

Men. like Women, need to feel loved

If a man doesn’t feel loved and appreciated in his relationship, he may turn to burying himself in work. Another may develop a fixation on sports or video games. To avoid this, take time DAILY to express love and appreciation for each other. Even through little ways, can make a Huge positive difference !

He’s Vested in You

Most men realize there’s a lot to lose if a long-term relationship goes sour — not just each other’s company, but the entire life you’ve built together. If you’re willing to work to strengthen your marriage, chances are your man will be, too. Each day, do something that builds on the love of your marriage. For example, do something unexpected for each other. Be creative – It’s more fun !!

Hope to hear from men and women readers on your thoughts and feedback too.

Here’s to enjoying a Boundryless Loving Marriage together !!

Enjoy exploring and building your love - Together <3

Enjoy exploring and building your love – Together ❤

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Happiness in your Home ~

Hi Folks,

Recently a man who feel truly fortunate to call both my teacher as well as my friend did an outstanding post on …

Happiness in the home.

So here it is untouched for its message should be read AND applied by us All !!

Stephen and Rumiko Hayes reflecting Happiness In Life AND Marriage ~

Stephen and Rumiko Hayes reflecting Happiness In Life AND Marriage ~

On Rumiko’s and my 31st wedding anniversary, a young friend asked for advice on how to create the happiest home possible with a life partner. This sort of thing is not my special knowledge power area; after 31 years I still tell people I was just very fortunate in getting the wife I did – that was the grandest sales job of my life.

But I did promise to give the request my most sincere consideration.

Napoleon Hill (a classic read, still valuable today) wrote that choice of spouse is one of the most important determinants of your future success. From watching and observing so many people over my decades, I would say it might be the most important thing that determines your level of success in life. If you have brilliant knowledge and skill in the marketplace but are anchored down by a miserable private life, it will be almost impossible to set sail.

Your home and the people you share it with are supposed to be your refuge, your safe haven of recharge and regeneration, your lounge of warm support and boardroom of cool collaboration. In all the best ways, you are a team of the heart.

Some of my friends tell me their home is not a refuge and not a safe haven for them. They lack a partner who sees and supports who they are and what their gift is and what they are destined to do and become. Their partners actually make them feel guilty for being who they truly are. And yes, a few of my friends are actually the problem in the home themselves; home is not a haven because they do not know how to tune in to others and do not know how to express properly what they need.

If you are spending more time working out knots and smoothing out disruptions in your home than you are solving problems out in the marketplace, your market endeavors are bound to produce the diminished results that come from reduced attention and distracted effort. If you are inspired by high ideals, wining a battle in the marketplace is called advancing the welfare of all; winning a fight at home is called breaking everybody’s heart.

Building and maintaining a warm and happy refuge of a home is much harder for young couples today than it was in my grandparents’ age, I believe. It seems that our culture no longer supports and expects happy homes. My observation is that our society actually prepares individuals to expect disruption and discarding; when things become even mildly displeasing, others encourage us to “do what makes you happy” (usually means take the easiest way to bail out of a difficulty) as opposed to “do the best thing for yourself and all involved” (usually much more demanding of attention and effort, and so more difficult and discomforting).

Any relationship will have its difficult moments, even the relationship with yourself. Have you ever let yourself down? Have you ever done something that just was not your best and felt bad about it? Have you ever said something that you regretted because it was not the best expression of who and what you are, and wished you could have re-done that moment? Have you even been so tired or distracted or stressed that you were less polite and encouraging to a loved one than you wished you had been? Have you ever looked less than your most attractive? In spite of those times, are you nonetheless still a good person who wants to do his or her best? Of course you have to answer yes.

Now take a deep breath and ask, “If I cannot always operate at tip-top best shape, why on earth am I expecting others I to do for me what I cannot always do myself?” Give ‘em a break now and then.

My number one suggestion when it comes to happy home life is to pick your partner wisely. Do not let convenience or accident make the choice for you. Know what you are looking for. If you do not know what to look for, see suggestion three below.

My number two suggestion is to want to enjoy happiness more than you want to have things be a certain way. Want to be happy. Look around and find what is right and happiness-inducing about the people in your home, as opposed to obsessing on “wouldn’t it be nice if” conditions that are not going to happen.

My number three suggestion is to find a person who lives the life you want to live, and then convince them to be your mentor, and then follow their advice without argument, especially when they suggest you do something in a way you would not usually want to do it.

I also make those same three suggestions when people ask me how to get more out of their martial arts training. Pick your art and school wisely, focus on what is good about your training, and do not argue with a mentor who knows how to do what you do not know how to do.