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Enjoy the Moment - Together !

Enjoy the Moment – Together !

Hi folks,

Having recently noticed have a lot of posts, but none for the Lady in our lives.

Here’s some insight into us Guys, done with Love,  in the hopes to better understand us oftentimes complex, men of few words, type of guys.

Women – This is for you !

Men Say ‘I Love You’ With Actions

Some men prefer to show their feelings through actions rather than words. Your guy may say “I love you” by fixing things around the house, tidying up the yard, or even taking out the trash — anything that makes your world a better place.

Men Really Do Take Commitment Seriously

Men have a reputation for being afraid to commit. But the evidence suggests men take marriage seriously. They may take longer to commit because they want to make sure they are on-board for good. In a survey of currently married men, 90% say they would marry the same woman again.

He Really Is Listening

When you’re listening to someone talk, you probably chime in with a “yes” or “I see” every now and then. It’s your way of saying, “I’m listening.” But some guys don’t do this. Just because a man isn’t saying anything doesn’t mean he’s not listening. He may prefer to listen quietly and think about what you’re saying.

Shared Activities Form Bonds

Men strengthen their relationships with their partners through doing things together, more than by sharing thoughts or feelings. For many men, activities like sports and sex make them feel closer to their partner. So, find an activity you enjoy doing together. For example, creative French or Italian cooking, hiking, mini-vacation for some quiet or active time together, etc. The best part, Be Creative in choosing what you’ll enjoy doing together makes it all the more fun !

Enjoy sharing activities together

Enjoy sharing activities together

Men Need Time for Themselves

While shared activities are important, men also need time for themselves. Whether your guy enjoys golf, gardening, or working out at the gym, encourage him to pursue his hobbies, while you make time for your own. When both partners have space to nurture their individuality, they have more to give to each other.

Men Learn From Their Fathers

If you want to know how a man will act in a relationship, get to know his dad. How they are with each other and how the father relates to the mother can predict how a man will relate to his wife. As the saying goes … Like father – Like son ~

Men Let Go Faster Than Women

Women tend to remember negative experiences longer and may have lingering feelings of stress, anxiety, or sadness. In contrast, men are less likely to dwell on unpleasant events and tend to move on more quickly. So while you may still want to talk about last night’s argument, your guy may have already forgotten about it. This is where being understanding and seeing each other’s point of view can help.

Men Don’t Pick Up on Subtle Cues

Men are more likely to miss subtle signals like tone of voice or facial expressions. And they are especially likely to miss sadness on a woman’s face. If you want to make sure your guy gets the message, be direct.

Men Respond to Appreciation

Showing appreciation for your guy can make a big difference in the way he acts. Take parenting: Studies show that fathers are more involved in care-giving when their wives value their involvement and see them as competent.

Most Men Think About Sex … A Lot

OK, so maybe this one is no secret. Most men under age 60 think about sex at least once a day, compared with only a quarter of women. And that’s not all. Men fantasize about sex nearly twice as often as women do, and their fantasies are much more varied. Here is where having a romantic weekend at a B & B can help. Create your fantasy love spot, then enjoy it together !

Men Find Sex Significant

It’s a myth that most men think sex is just sex. For many, sex is a very important act between two committed people. And just like most women, men find sexual intimacy to be most satisfying within a committed relationship. One reason is that long-term partners know how to please one another better than strangers do. Enjoy a quiet time together, romantic evening, make a date, then lavish each other while finding ways to please each other.

He Likes It When You Initiate Sex

Most guys feel as though they’re the ones who always initiate sex. But they also like to be pursued and wish their partner would take the lead more often. Don’t be shy about letting your guy know you’re in the mood. Initiating sex some of the time may lead to a higher level of satisfaction for both of you. Here’s the woman’s opportunity to enjoy being romantically creative.

Guys Aren’t Always Up for Sex

Men, much to many women’s surprise, aren’t always in the mood for sex. Just like women, men are often stressed by the demands of work, family, and paying the bills. And stress is a big libido crusher. When a guy says, “not tonight,” it doesn’t mean he’s lost interest in you. He just means he doesn’t want to have sex right then. This is a BIG one. And, when this occurs, just enjoy snuggling, watching a movie together, some hot chocolate. Enjoy each other in ways outside of sex, is a good foundation, to building a long loving relationship, based not just on sex, but on mutual understanding, as well as building loving memories together too.

Be creative  in expressing your love each day ~

Be creative in expressing your love each day ~

Men Like Pleasing Their Partner

Your pleasure is important to your man. But he won’t know what you want unless you tell him. Too many women feel uncomfortable talking about what they like and don’t like. If you can tell him clearly in a way that doesn’t bruise his ego, he’ll listen. Because he knows he’ll feel good if you feel good. Encourage giving a massage, while telling where to massage more, gentler, slower, you get the idea.

Guys Get Performance Anxiety

Most men get performance anxiety on occasion, especially as they age. Your guy may worry about his body, technique, and stamina. If you can help him learn to relax and stay focused on the pleasures of the moment, sex will become less stressful. This can actually help both ways. As you both let go of feeling have to have sex, and more on loving touches, enjoying the moment without expectations, can go a long way to building a more relaxed loving atmosphere for you both.

Men. like Women, need to feel loved

If a man doesn’t feel loved and appreciated in his relationship, he may turn to burying himself in work. Another may develop a fixation on sports or video games. To avoid this, take time DAILY to express love and appreciation for each other. Even through little ways, can make a Huge positive difference !

He’s Vested in You

Most men realize there’s a lot to lose if a long-term relationship goes sour — not just each other’s company, but the entire life you’ve built together. If you’re willing to work to strengthen your marriage, chances are your man will be, too. Each day, do something that builds on the love of your marriage. For example, do something unexpected for each other. Be creative – It’s more fun !!

Hope to hear from men and women readers on your thoughts and feedback too.

Here’s to enjoying a Boundryless Loving Marriage together !!

Enjoy exploring and building your love - Together <3

Enjoy exploring and building your love – Together ❤

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Manage Holiday Stress

Hi Folks,

Just some quick tips to help those facing a crazy busy holiday season that I’ve used to handle my busy consultant service, helping my wife with her business start-up,  and on top of that, meeting my goals for a Awesome finish to 2013 and Super Kick-Start to 2014.

Gee, after reading that you’d think I would be as my granddad use to say….Busier than a one-arm paper hanger!

Instead, enjoyed a morning workout that energized me for the day….not just for me, but to help others attain their goals. For as we help others, we ultimately are also helping ourselves achieve as well.

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Now for some tips to manage that holiday stress – Anytime ~

It’s the 4-7-8 relaxation breathing sequence. I learned the 4-7-8 breathing practice from the writings of Drs. Andrew Weil and Tierona Low Dog. The technique shifts the autonomic nervous system away from the sympathetic predominance (which makes our hearts race and our palms sweaty when we face a stressful situation) and allows the parasympathetic nervous system to shine.

Here’s how you do it:

  1. Sit up straight in a chair.
  2. Place the tip of your tongue up against the roof of your mouth. Keep it there through the entire breathing process.
  3. Breathe in silently through your nose to the slow count of 4.
  4. Hold your breath to the count of 7.
  5. Exhale through your mouth to the count of 8, making a slight audible sound.
  6. Repeat the 4-7-8 cycle another three times, for a total of fourbreathing exercises.

Does breathing really work to train our nervous system to find a calm place from which we can manage life more successfully?

Thousands of years of practice in many religious traditions say that it does. Recent scientific studies also confirm the benefits. For example, subjects taught to breathe slowly and deeply as a mind-body practice show beneficial changes in the autonomic nervous system favoring parasympathetic relaxation, document changes increases in skin temperature from better artery flow, and reveal reductions inblood pressure compared to control subjects. If you have children or teenagers, www.gozen.com has a terrific teaching video on the 4-7-8 breathing exercise that may be useful to share with them.

Anyone can benefit from this important tool. Svatmarama wrote in the Hatha Yoga Prakipika that “when the breath is calmed the mind too will be still, and the yogi achieves long life. Therefore, one should learn to control the breath”. This ancient wisdom still rings true today.

Here’s to enjoying a Happier lower stress Holiday Boundryless Season with those we care about the most in our Life !!

 

Enjoy your New Year with New Energy !

Relax to Revitalize

Relax to Revitalize

Hi Folks,

Here’s some great energy tips to help you enjoy a Boundryless New Year.

If you feel zapped of energy far too often and not sure why,  it’s more often mental than physical.

There are several physical causes you should consider. Yet there many more causes for low energy that stem from non-physical causes. And there are many things you can do to improve low energy.

Physical Causes

Tired of feeling tired and run down? If so, you’d be wise to look at both physical and other common causes for low energy. A physical cause can be discovered by your physician. The more common of these physical causes I would consider are these:

  • Low thyroid hormone.
  • Congestive heart failure (lack of blood-flow capacity).
  • Anemia (lack of oxygen-carrying capacity).
  • Adrenal fatigue (lack of cortisol).
  • Chronic viral infection (such as hepatitis C).
  • Insomnia (with resultant daytime fatigue).
  • Hypoglycemia (transient low blood sugar spells).
  • Overweight.
  • Too much refined/processed food and lack of whole foods/fresh produce.

Eating poorly is the most common physical cause for low energy. It goes hand in hand with a sedentary lifestyle.

Shift to better eating by habits by fresh juice feasting and drinking lots of fruit smoothies. (You can add nuts, eggs and stevia to make smoothies into complete meals.)

For better nutrition, go off these particular food categories in particular: dairy, refined sugar and bread products. Then get yourself an exercise routine with great music (iPod shuffles cost less than $50), and you’ll see your energy spiral upward for sure.

Although physical causes for low energy can slow you down, behavioral and emotional sources most commonly are to blame for zapping energy.

Energy Zappers

What’s in your mind, your feelings and, as result, in every cell of your body is usually the cause of low energy. What you think and how you feel are your reality.

When you first open your eyes in the morning, there is a “feeling tone.” It’s that moment when you are first aware that a new day is upon you. Notice the feeling at that moment, and you will discover if mood is to blame for low energy. A happy feeling tells you that your mood is generally good. Alternatively, a feeling of uncertainty or fear tells you that your mood deserves a boost. Be honest with yourself.

You can shift into a feeling tone of confidence and happiness, which will translate into more energy if mood is your main reason for low energy.

Here’s how: The five minutes when you first wake up are vital to the entire day. Visualize what makes you really happy. Keep your focus on it and allow good feelings to flow into your body. Imagine yourself doing and loving the performance of what brings you joy.

Be sure to focus on the good feelings while you see this picture in your mind. This requires letting go of doubts that what you visualize can be a reality, and it allows fulfilling possibilities to flow into you. Even if you spend only a few moments dreaming about happiness, your dreams eventually take some form of reality.

This gives you the energy to know you are following a passion you really enjoy. The emotional fuel for this energy is a renewable resource. Physical energy may seem to run down as we age, but emotional energy can increase.

Relationships

Think about the relationship that is the one that dominates your feeling tone. If you have at least one good relationship in your life, you can focus on that one and let the good feelings from it flood your mind and body. At the same time, let go of the fight inside you toward all others, because holding on to that fight drains your energy.

Let’s imagine you and your spouse decide to go out for the evening together. You both have plenty of energy while you are preparing yourselves for the evening. Your spouse is even playing upbeat music. As you start your drive together to the city, however, a negative feeling (from a discussion) is thrown into your enthusiasm and suddenly your energy drops. You go to dinner; but instead of going dancing with friends afterward as planned, you both decide to just go home to bed early.

What killed your physical energy? Did you let your discussion turn into negative feelings? It is easy to create a bad mood between you when a simple sentence is spoken without caution, turning into ill feelings that kill your energy. Had you both simply not taken offense (let it go, let the other person be “right” and keep focused on the positive), such energy-draining moods would never develop. The perfect relationship can be the one that takes time and patience and soon becomes a source of emotional fuel.

Other ways that your energy can be drained:

  • Being over-committed with duties and responsibilities.
  • Allowing others’ expectations to run your life.
  • Believing another’s critical views of you.
  • Guilt and shame. (Remember that your past is only for you to learn from; it’s not true of you now, if you keep it in perspective.)
  • Comparing yourself (with envy) to others’ good fortune, then criticizing yourself.
  • Worry or chronic fear.

I’m sure there are a multitude of distressing feelings that can drain energy. You must be willing to take an honest look at them and free yourself. Then, you’ll have passion and energy again. You need to experience pleasure and fun often. Great music, great friends, new experiences, prayers with feeling and positive anticipation will fuel your energy.

So do like me….

The night before plan your next day.

Do this at least 3o minutes before sleep …..

Listen to relaxing music, read a  book, meditate …one or all will help you unwind 🙂

Most important….

Allow your mind to recharge just as your body needs to. So take a moment in the morning to deep breathe and visualize your day of success…Yes, I said day of s success !

At lunch, take at least 5 to 10 minutes to deep breathe and if possible a short recharge nap instead of that coffee.

End of day, unwind with a relaxing walk, some yoga, whatever you like to do.

Here’s to enjoying a Boundrylessly Happy, Healthy, and Productive New Year !!

 

 

 

Destress to Deage ~

Relax into Qigong

Relax into Qigong

Hi Folks,

Recently was chatting with some friends after our workout in the park.

The discussion got around to how we’ve noticed stress can really affect health, especially how we age.

Here’s some of our conversation and appreciate your thoughts on this topic too ~

We intuitively know that stress is harmful. Recently, however, science has proven this to be factual. An overdose of stress can harm us down to our genetic makeup.

It seems to me there are many people, mostly men who are annoyed by the suffering and have lost their lust for living. But this man was different, you can tell by his eyes. He had patience and he took up my advice—of asking him to learn and practice Qi Gong in a regular class provided by a nearby friend. He practiced it as much as he could with his limited body but unlimited enthusiasm. With all his strength, he stood up in front of me from his wheel chair with assistance from his friend who had joined him. Enthusiastically, he proceeded quickly to try to lift his left arm. It jerked then moved upward as if an old compressed bed frame spring has been let loose. There were cheers from around the group, but I did not seem to notice. I was just staring at the pearls of tears streaming down his eyes. I knew they were tears of joy.

Just a little science to better understand this ..,
The cells in our bodies are continually replicating to replace old or worn-out cells. Our genetic material is stored within chromosomes in each cell, and when the cell replicates, these chromosomes make copies of themselves. In the early 1980’s, scientists discovered telomeres, the protective caps at the ends of chromosomes, and telomerase the enzyme that rebuilds these caps as they wear down. If you were to envision a chromosome as a shoelace, the ends of the shoelace that keep it from fraying would be telomeres, also keeping the chromosome intact. These protective caps and the enzymes that restore them protect the genetic material within the chromosome from mutation during cell replication. This is fundamental to optimum wellness and healthy aging.

Further study found that people under stress had shorter telomeres and less telomerase, implying increased chance of genetic mutations, disease, and accelerated aging.

Stress clearly wreaks havoc on telomerase and therefore the body, but we don’t have to surrender to it.

Our group agreed all of us can make changes for the better in our thought processes as well as our lifestyle:

Sleep: Give yourself time to restore.
Eat Well: Stay nourished to cope with life head on.
Talk Through It: When the stress is traumatizing, consider the guidance of a licensed therapist or experienced counselor.
Exercise: Get the blood pumping to detoxify your mind and body.
Get Acupuncture: Numerous research studies indicate that acupuncture reduces stress through the release of endorphins and the decrease of neuropeptide Y (NPY), shown to be elevated in those with chronic stress and thought to contribute to the physiological stress response.
Meditate: This ancient practice stands the test of time. It allows you to align your breath, body and mind to bring you into a peaceful state.

Most important of all ~ Find something you enjoy doing ~ Do it with friends ~ Relax and Truly Enjoy Living ~

Here’s to living a Boundryless life !!

Everyone can Meditate ~ Sit ~ Breathe ~ Relax ~

Everyone can Meditate ~                    Sit ~ Breathe ~ Relax ~

All about doing it Smarter ~ Not Harder !

Doing it Smarter ~ Not Harder

Doing it Smarter ~ Not Harder

 

Hi Folks,

After my morning workout at the park, was chatting with a bro’ of mine that lives nearby.

He mentioned about it seems like his life was getting harder…..

In fact….

EVERYTHING was getting harder.

He was chalking it up to getting a few years on him.

That’s when I said….Bro !  It’s all about doing it Smarter ~ Not Harder man !

Here’s some tips shared that hope help you too …

Ever since computers have become such a large part of our lives, it seems that workloads have dramatically increased…

Are you getting that feeling of BTDT (Been There ~ Done That) about now ~

Now, instead of things getting easier, we’ve gotten busier and more hectic than ever before.

This may cause you to feel overburdened with your heavier workloads, especially when it comes to tasks you have to do repeatedly. Finding better ways to accomplish your to-do list can
save you time, money, and a whole lot of frustration.

How do you “work smarter, not harder?” Look at what you do on a daily basis and develop ways to get the same amount done with less effort and struggle.

Here are some ways you can work smarter, not harder:

First … Simplify repeated tasks. Forms and templates can save time on a lot of tasks. For example, if you have to send out a lot of the same email, create a template email so you can just fill in the
specific parts for each person individually.

Second … Delegate some of your responsibilities to other people. If you have too much housework, give the kids some chores and set up a schedule. Four people doing four things will get them done faster than one person doing all four things alone.

Third … Automate. If you’re in a position that requires the same thing done every day, at the same time, then try to find a way to get the process automated so it happens without you there. An example would be to back up your computer every night, automatically.

Fourth … Eliminate the useless. There are unproductive things you do on a daily basis. In fact, you probably already know exactly what these distractions are! Once you identify your time-wasters, remove them from your routine and focus on those tasks that are truly productive.

Fifth … Focus. Stay focused on your responsibilities, not the responsibilities of others. If everyone focuses on their primary responsibilities first, the large portion of the job gets finished and then minor details can be taken care of later.

Sixth … Learn to say “no.” Many people take on too much work because they’ve never learned to tell others “no.” Before taking on extra duties for someone else, make sure you schedule time for your own needs first.

Seventh … Know your limits. Face it … we’re only human. Avoid taking on more than you can handle in order to please someone above you. If you do this on a regular basis, you’ll ultimately be working twice as hard because you’re not performing at your very best.

Learn how much you can handle while still being ~ FEELING  productive. We all have limits, and respecting our own limits leads to greater productivity.

Working smarter, not harder is all about planning, executing and knowing your limits.

Planning saves time and money. It allows you to delegate and assign tasks to those most qualified to complete them. Using systems and automation to execute tasks eliminates repetition and assures quality control. Wisely considering limits prevents burnout and late work.

All in all, working smarter, not harder does just what it says. Not only does it save you valuable time, but your production levels will soar as well!

Here’s to living a Smarter and Happier Boundryless Life !!  🙂

Living Smarter ~ Each Moment

Living Smarter ~ Each Moment

 

Get horizontal to be Trim !

Enjoying those Sweet Dreams !

Enjoying those Sweet Dreams !

Hey Folks,

Probably wondering about that title.

Well, it’s referring to getting the well deserved deep relaxing sleep you deserve and need.

Do these tips to enjoy some great shut-eye …

The quality and quantity of your sleep  can affect your ability to lose weight, and stay healthy. There are a great many things that influence your sleep, but have you ever considered your bedroom?

Let me give you an example. If music is on while you are cooking in the kitchen, and you have all the right equipment, and all the right ingredients what happens? Not only do you enjoy cooking more, but the food you make likely tastes better!

Adding hours and depth to your sleep results in weight loss:  a 2009 study conducted in Sao Paulo, Brazil found that while sleeping you burn three times more fat then when lying in bed awake.  In another study, participants on identical diets that slept 5.5 hours lost lean muscle, as opposed to those sleeping 7+ hours who lost fat.

So what is your bedroom doing to keep you awake and fat? Here are my Five Tips for a Skinny Bedroom:

Lose the snooze: using the snooze button in the early morning hours keeps you from the most calorie burning stage of sleep, REM sleep,-which occurs most in the final third of the night.

  • You can also use the trick of setting your alarm to tell you when to go to bed, to stick to your healthy sleep schedule of getting to bed at the same time every night.

Enforce an Electronic Curfew: while I would prefer electronics (phones, laptops, iPads etc) to be out of the bedroom altogether, I know it is simply not realistic. So set an electronic curfew for 1 hour before lights out. This will decrease the electronic exposure you are getting before bed (which has been reported to cause un-refreshing sleep).

  • Try setting an alarm on your mobile device, or better yet see if you can set a timer to turn it off!
  • What would you do in that last hour? Try my POWER DOWN HOUR technique, it works wonders:
  • 20 minutes of those small things that just need to get done
  • 20 minutes of bedtime hygiene
  • 20 minutes of meditation, relaxation, or massage

Light Your path: If you get up in the middle of the night and need to use the restroom, you probably turn on a light, and tell your brain it is morning! This also slows the production of Melatonin (the “vampire” hormone that-is produced in darkness) which is the key that starts the engine for sleep.

  • Strategically place a night light in the bathroom and in the hall on the way. Now you can avoid any excess light or stumbling into a nightstand, and get back to sleep more easily.

Have the right performance equipment: the right mattress and pillow make a huge difference. If you are not comfortable you will not relax enough to fall asleep. If you do not have the proper support you will not awaken feeling refreshed (and thinner).

  • Consider a new mattress when your body tells you it is time, not when the warranty is up. Never sleep on the same surface longer than 7 years.
  • Replace pillows every year, or earlier if your neck is stiff.

Provide soothing sounds for sleep: if it is too quiet your hearing will become more acute and everything will keep you awake. Too much noise will also prevent or disrupt sleep. Consider a noise that will drown out any environmental disturbances, without being too loud to prevent sleep.

  • Think about a sound machine
  • Consider using a fan

Don’t let your bedroom prevent you from getting the sleep you need to help you lose those extra pounds.  Look around and see what you can do create a bedroom that helps you sleep better and look better!

Enjoy Boundryless Living with Boundryless Dreams !!

Find that comfy sleeping spot !

Find that comfy sleeping spot and Sweet Dreams !

The Most important letter in y…o….u….is U !!!

Vital ZZZ's for a healthy yoU !!!

Vital ZZZ's for a healthy yoU !!!

Hi folks,

Been traveling so got delayed posting.

For today, want to share how important YOU are !!!

Think of it this way, the famous phrase, “Save the Best for Last” truly applies as you look at the last letter in yoU….it’s the letter U

So today dedicate your MAP, your eating, even enjoying some quiet time for just yoU today !

Now another tip that hope help you as much as they did me.

If you’re trying your best to eat right and exercise, it might be worth it to make sure you get the proper amount of sleep each night, according to a new study that suggests lack of sleep can throw off a diet.

According to CNN Health, research from the University of Chicago showed that dieters who slept for 8.5 hours lost 55 percent more body fat than dieters who slept 5.5 hours

“The dieters who slept less reported feeling hungrier throughout the course of the study,” CNN said, even though “they ate the same diet, consumed multivitamins and performed the same type of work or leisure activities.”

The study authors concluded that “Lack of sufficient sleep may compromise the efficacy of typical dietary interventions for weight loss and related metabolic risk reduction,” CNN said. The study was released October 4 in the Annals of Internal Medicine.

So get your vital ZZZZZ’s along with your A, B, and C nutrients too !! 😉

Looking for others to share your thoughts along with ideas on health and how MAP helped you.

Best to you in the 2011 New Year Folks !!