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3 Things I Tell Anyone Who’s Trying To Get Fit, Strong & Live Longer

Ben Greenfield

Ben Greenfield

Hi Folks,

Here’s a great post by one of my favorites Ben Greenfield ~ Enjoy !!

As a successful fitness trainer — I get a lot of questions about how people can become healthier versions of themselves. Most of the time, they want to know the absolute fastest way to lose weight, tone up, build muscle or as I like to call it, become “superhuman.” In case you’re wondering the same thing — here are a few ways to get started.

1. You should only sit down to eat.

Most of us plant our butts in a chair for 8 hours a day, then begin or end the day with some exercise designed to combat the damage done all day long, an approach that may not reduce your cardiovascular risk factors by much.

The simple solution? “Fool” your body into engaging in low-intensity levels of physical activity all day long. I practice this by only sitting down during the day when it’s time to eat (an exception is flying on an airplane, or sitting in a train or car).

Otherwise, the rest of the day, you should choose to lunge, kneel, lay on your stomach, lay on your back, stand, lean, etc. You’ll be surprised at how difficult this habit can be at first, and how you’re probably sitting far, far more than you thought you were. Watch this video of the myriad of positions I maintain all day long in my home office.

2. Trade long, hot showers for short, cold ones.

I take two 2-5-minute cold showers each day, and one longer 15-30-minute cold soak or cold water swim each week. Why? In the book “Anti-Fragile,” the author, Nassim Taleb, discusses how as your bones and muscles become stronger when subjected to variety, stress and tension. Many other elements of your life can benefit from mild amounts stress, disorder, volatility and turmoil as well.

The technical term for this is hormesis, which is the term to describe favorable biological responses to some stress exposure. In other words, by exposing yourself to discomfort, you bounce back stronger and you become more resilient to stress.

For example, refrigerators have not always been a luxury of humankind, so it’s OK to sometimes be hungry and fast, and sometimes eat completely random meals you’d normally never eat (breakfast for dinner, anyone?).

Sometimes lions and bears jump out and chase you — so it’s OK to skip that aerobic bike ride and instead do a short, intense, four-minute Tabata set — and vice versa. Be uncomfortable. Expose your body to occasional, sane amounts of natural stress and disorder. This will fight fragility, keep you alive and vibrant, and allow your lungs, muscles and heart to overcome gradually adapting to the demands you place upon them.

Trading hot showers for cold ones is a great way to launch into some natural hormetic stress. Two of my favorite ways to use temperature to elevate your body and make yourself “anti-fragile” are cold exposure with cold showers, temperatures, baths and soaks and alternately, heat exposure with weekly 20-45-minute visits to a sauna or steam room. A very simple way to get started with developing a less fragile body is to give yourself a 30-day challenge of not touching the hot water handle in your shower or bath. That’s it. See what happens.

3. Quit running marathons.

And by this I mean don’t exercise too hard. If you study the habits of the longest-living populations (the new book “Blue Zones” by Dan Buettner is a great introduction), you won’t find them doing CrossFit, P90X, Beach Body Insanity or any kind of daily extreme exercise. Instead, you’ll see low levels of mild physical activity such as walking, gardening, and standing throughout the day.

That’s right: the world’s longest-living people didn’t pump iron or run marathons and triathlons. Instead, they dwell in environments that nudge them into moving without thinking about it. So here’s the takeaway message: My habits of extreme obstacle racing, triathlons and hard-exercise sessions are not making me live longer and could even be taking hours, days or weeks off my life.

Because of this, you should reframe your perspective on physical activity. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that hard exercise is the key to longevity. Will it help you get fit and strong? Sure. But so will gardening, cleaning your house, building a rock wall, walking or riding your bicycle to work and hiking in the forest.

Ultimately, if you want to get fit, strong and live longer, begin with habits that are small, sustainable and do-able: sit to eat, tweak your temps, and reframe your perspective on exercise.

Hope you enjoyed this repost of Ben Greendfield’s tips and let us know what you do to keep fit !!

Here’s to a Boundryless Fit, Strong and Living Healthy !

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For the Woman in your Life

Enjoy the Moment - Together !

Enjoy the Moment – Together !

Hi folks,

Having recently noticed have a lot of posts, but none for the Lady in our lives.

Here’s some insight into us Guys, done with Love,  in the hopes to better understand us oftentimes complex, men of few words, type of guys.

Women – This is for you !

Men Say ‘I Love You’ With Actions

Some men prefer to show their feelings through actions rather than words. Your guy may say “I love you” by fixing things around the house, tidying up the yard, or even taking out the trash — anything that makes your world a better place.

Men Really Do Take Commitment Seriously

Men have a reputation for being afraid to commit. But the evidence suggests men take marriage seriously. They may take longer to commit because they want to make sure they are on-board for good. In a survey of currently married men, 90% say they would marry the same woman again.

He Really Is Listening

When you’re listening to someone talk, you probably chime in with a “yes” or “I see” every now and then. It’s your way of saying, “I’m listening.” But some guys don’t do this. Just because a man isn’t saying anything doesn’t mean he’s not listening. He may prefer to listen quietly and think about what you’re saying.

Shared Activities Form Bonds

Men strengthen their relationships with their partners through doing things together, more than by sharing thoughts or feelings. For many men, activities like sports and sex make them feel closer to their partner. So, find an activity you enjoy doing together. For example, creative French or Italian cooking, hiking, mini-vacation for some quiet or active time together, etc. The best part, Be Creative in choosing what you’ll enjoy doing together makes it all the more fun !

Enjoy sharing activities together

Enjoy sharing activities together

Men Need Time for Themselves

While shared activities are important, men also need time for themselves. Whether your guy enjoys golf, gardening, or working out at the gym, encourage him to pursue his hobbies, while you make time for your own. When both partners have space to nurture their individuality, they have more to give to each other.

Men Learn From Their Fathers

If you want to know how a man will act in a relationship, get to know his dad. How they are with each other and how the father relates to the mother can predict how a man will relate to his wife. As the saying goes … Like father – Like son ~

Men Let Go Faster Than Women

Women tend to remember negative experiences longer and may have lingering feelings of stress, anxiety, or sadness. In contrast, men are less likely to dwell on unpleasant events and tend to move on more quickly. So while you may still want to talk about last night’s argument, your guy may have already forgotten about it. This is where being understanding and seeing each other’s point of view can help.

Men Don’t Pick Up on Subtle Cues

Men are more likely to miss subtle signals like tone of voice or facial expressions. And they are especially likely to miss sadness on a woman’s face. If you want to make sure your guy gets the message, be direct.

Men Respond to Appreciation

Showing appreciation for your guy can make a big difference in the way he acts. Take parenting: Studies show that fathers are more involved in care-giving when their wives value their involvement and see them as competent.

Most Men Think About Sex … A Lot

OK, so maybe this one is no secret. Most men under age 60 think about sex at least once a day, compared with only a quarter of women. And that’s not all. Men fantasize about sex nearly twice as often as women do, and their fantasies are much more varied. Here is where having a romantic weekend at a B & B can help. Create your fantasy love spot, then enjoy it together !

Men Find Sex Significant

It’s a myth that most men think sex is just sex. For many, sex is a very important act between two committed people. And just like most women, men find sexual intimacy to be most satisfying within a committed relationship. One reason is that long-term partners know how to please one another better than strangers do. Enjoy a quiet time together, romantic evening, make a date, then lavish each other while finding ways to please each other.

He Likes It When You Initiate Sex

Most guys feel as though they’re the ones who always initiate sex. But they also like to be pursued and wish their partner would take the lead more often. Don’t be shy about letting your guy know you’re in the mood. Initiating sex some of the time may lead to a higher level of satisfaction for both of you. Here’s the woman’s opportunity to enjoy being romantically creative.

Guys Aren’t Always Up for Sex

Men, much to many women’s surprise, aren’t always in the mood for sex. Just like women, men are often stressed by the demands of work, family, and paying the bills. And stress is a big libido crusher. When a guy says, “not tonight,” it doesn’t mean he’s lost interest in you. He just means he doesn’t want to have sex right then. This is a BIG one. And, when this occurs, just enjoy snuggling, watching a movie together, some hot chocolate. Enjoy each other in ways outside of sex, is a good foundation, to building a long loving relationship, based not just on sex, but on mutual understanding, as well as building loving memories together too.

Be creative  in expressing your love each day ~

Be creative in expressing your love each day ~

Men Like Pleasing Their Partner

Your pleasure is important to your man. But he won’t know what you want unless you tell him. Too many women feel uncomfortable talking about what they like and don’t like. If you can tell him clearly in a way that doesn’t bruise his ego, he’ll listen. Because he knows he’ll feel good if you feel good. Encourage giving a massage, while telling where to massage more, gentler, slower, you get the idea.

Guys Get Performance Anxiety

Most men get performance anxiety on occasion, especially as they age. Your guy may worry about his body, technique, and stamina. If you can help him learn to relax and stay focused on the pleasures of the moment, sex will become less stressful. This can actually help both ways. As you both let go of feeling have to have sex, and more on loving touches, enjoying the moment without expectations, can go a long way to building a more relaxed loving atmosphere for you both.

Men. like Women, need to feel loved

If a man doesn’t feel loved and appreciated in his relationship, he may turn to burying himself in work. Another may develop a fixation on sports or video games. To avoid this, take time DAILY to express love and appreciation for each other. Even through little ways, can make a Huge positive difference !

He’s Vested in You

Most men realize there’s a lot to lose if a long-term relationship goes sour — not just each other’s company, but the entire life you’ve built together. If you’re willing to work to strengthen your marriage, chances are your man will be, too. Each day, do something that builds on the love of your marriage. For example, do something unexpected for each other. Be creative – It’s more fun !!

Hope to hear from men and women readers on your thoughts and feedback too.

Here’s to enjoying a Boundryless Loving Marriage together !!

Enjoy exploring and building your love - Together <3

Enjoy exploring and building your love – Together ❤