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Are you Fear setting or Goal setting?

Seneca-Quotes

Hello Folks,

Hope all of you are enjoying the weekend and to help you prep for next week here’s a great article by Tim Ferriss about Fear setting. Here’s an excerpt to show how important it can be for your Success –

“I do an exercise called “fear-setting” at least once a quarter, often once a month. It is the most powerful exercise I do.  Fear-setting has produced my biggest business and personal successes, as well as repeatedly helped me to avoid catastrophic mistakes.”

Most people thing that setting a goal, makes it attainable. What truly makes this a good way of achieving success is facing, defining, then taking action to go beyond it.

Some examples cited include: “Bill Belichick, head coach of the New England Patriots, who has the all-time NFL record for Super Bowl titles. And stoicism has spread like wildfire in the top of the NFL ranks as a means of mental toughness training in the last few years.”

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Another example cited; “You might not think of the Founding Fathers — Thomas Jefferson, John Adams, George Washington to name but three students of stoicism. George Washington actually had a play about a Stoic — this was “Cato, a Tragedy” — performed for his troops at Valley Forge to keep them motivated.”

 

Some key points are

The Power of Pessimism: Defining the Nightmare

Conquering Fear = Defining Fear

Uncovering Fear Disguised as Optimism

To learn more go to the link here – Fear setting

Remember these wise words of Seneca: “We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.”

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Another post you may like is “The Tao of Seneca: Letter from a Stoic Master” here

Here’s to Living a Boundrlyless Life through Fear Setting!

Face Your Fear ~ Journey through the Eighth Gate to Growth !

 

Conquering Fear ~ Conquer it One Step at a time ~

Conquering Fear ~ Conquer it One Step at a time ~

Hi Folks,

Glad to hear you are enjoying this series. Remember to accomplish going through each Gate requires looking within oneself to learn AND grow ~ Both Challenge as well as Goal !

Today’s is about Facing our Fears…

A famous quote …..”Courage is not in the absence of fear, but the Conquering of it.”

Daily courage is not just a feeling…

Daily courage is … An Action !!

So make fear (especially of the unknown) your Servant and Guide not your master.

Do this through beginning with weekly challenges of facing an “unknown” in your life.

Such as fear of trying something new. For me, one example was instead of working out in a gym, do it at the park, wherever my work took me… be more spontaneous.  Soon I found others felt my enthusiasm so they would join me or even start chatting sometimes.

So turn a negative into a Positive folks….

Face Your Fear while journeying through this Eighth Gate to Growing from Fear into Courage !!

Here’s to Living Boundrylessly conquering our fears to build our Courage !!

Courageously Conquer your fear !

Courageously Conquer your fear !

Changing Fear as easy as A~B~C~D~E !!

Facing your Fear ~

Facing your Fear ~

Hey Folks,

Was chatting with a good buddy of mine who has been hesitating starting his online business out of fear of failure.

So as shared with my buddy, to look at fear as an advantage and Use It !!

Here’s now what we shared…

Uncertainty. It’s a terrifying word.

Living with it, dangling over your head like the sword of Damacles, day in day out, is enough to send anyone spiraling into a state of anxiety, fear and paralysis.

Like it or not, though, uncertainty is the new normal. We live in a time where the world is in a state of constant, long-term flux. And, that’s not all. If you want to spend your time on the planet not just getting-by, but consistently creating art, experiences, businesses and lives that truly matter, you’ll need to proactively seek out, invite and even deliberately amplify uncertainty. Because the other side of uncertainty is opportunity.

Nothing great was ever created by waiting around for someone to tell you it’s all going to be okay or for perfect information to drop from the sky. Doesn’t happen that way. Great work requires you to act in the face of uncertainty, to live in the question long enough for your true potential to emerge. There is no alternative.

When you find the strength to act in the face of uncertainty, you till the soil of genius.

Problem is, that kills most people. It leads to unease, anxiety, fear and doubt on a level that snuffs out most genuinely meaningful and potentially revolutionary endeavors before they even see the light of day. Not because they wouldn’t have succeeded, but because you never equipped yourself to handle and even harness the emotional energy of the journey.

But, what if it didn’t have to be that way?

What if there was a way to turn the fear, anxiety and self-doubt that rides along with acting in the face of uncertainty–the head-to-toe butterflies–into fuel for brilliance?

Turns out, there is. Your ability to lean into the unknown isn’t so much about luck or genetics, rather it’s something entirely trainable. I’ve spent the past few years interviewing world-class creators across a wide range of fields and pouring over research that spans neuroscience, decision-theory, psychology, creativity and business.

Through this work, a collection of patterns, practices and strategies have emerged that not only turbocharge insight, creativity, innovation and problem-solving, but also help ameliorate so much of the suffering so often associated with the pursuit of any creative quest.

These are as easy as A ~ B ~ C ~ D ~ E so get Going !!

1. Reframe.

We tell ourselves stories all day long. I’m skinny. I’m fat. I’m talented. I’m stupid. This is genius. This is awful. I will succeed. I will fail. I’m terrified and anxious. I’m confident and proactive. It turns out, the storylines we create around a particular circumstance are far more determinative of success than the circumstance itself. They affect not only our willingness to act, but the quality of our ideas and solutions.

If you create a story that empowers action and innovation, that’s great news. Unfortunately, our brains have a strong bias toward negativity, leading most of us to create stories around circumstances that require action in the face of uncertainty that are more likely to paralyze and stunt creativity than fuel action.

Reframing is a process that asks you to suspend negative storylines, explore if the story you’re telling is the only one and, if not (which is inevitably the case), construct or frame a new storyline that empowers you to experience an uncertain circumstance not as a prime for failure and inaction, but as a signpost for meaning and opportunity.

For example, if you’re disabling storyline is around the risk of failure, instead of just asking “what if I fail?” and creating a doomsday scenario, you also ask “how will I recover, what if I do nothing and what if I succeed?” Then build new stories around those questions.

2. Practice Mindfulness.

Reframing is an immensely powerful tool in the quest to lean into the unknown. But it also requires a certain equanimity; the ability to pull back and see what’s really going on, re-center, then breath into that uncomfortable place long enough for amazing things to bubble up. Over time, a daily mindfulness practice goes a long way toward equipping you to do just that.

Plus, it cultivates the sense of persistent grounding that makes living and acting in a world where there is no new normal far more enjoyable. And it trains you in the practice of dropping thoughts, among those, destructive, limiting-beliefs.

3. Exercise Your Brain.

We’ve all seen the research on exercise and health, weight loss and disease prevention. But, did you know that certain approaches to exercise also have a profound effect on your brain?

Daily cardiovascular exercise, for example, especially with high-intensity bursts mixed in can improve mood, executive function, decision-making and creativity and decrease anxiety and fear. The latest research even reveals the possibility that exercise can grow new brains cells, something that until only a few years ago, was thought to be impossible. It’s also strongly correlated with decreases in anxiety and increases in mood, which are directly connected to improved creativity and problem-solving.

4. Singletask.

Multitasking is out. Turns out this badge of honor from the ’90s is more fiction than fact. Our brains don’t multitask, they just rapidly switch between tasks, sometimes fast enough for us to believe we’re doing many things at once. Problem is, every time we switch, there is a “ramping cost” in your brain, it takes anywhere from a few second to 15 minutes for your brain to fully re-engage. This makes you feel insanely busy, but simultaneously craters productivity, creativity and increases feelings of anxiety and stress.

Multitasking also requires you to hold a lot of information in your working memory, which is controlled by a part of the brain known as the prefrontal cortex (PFC). But the PFC is also responsible for will-power, and for keeping fear and anxiety in check. Multitasking increases the “cognitive load” on the PFC, overwhelming it and effectively killing it’s ability to keep fear, anxiety and the taunt of distraction at bay.

Simple solution–just say no. Do one thing at a time in intense, short bursts.

5. Get Lean.

Instead of creating in a vacuum, explore the possibility of bringing a “lean” or “agile” approach to your creative process. Focus on maximum learning, create the simplest version of your idea possible, then bring a select group of those who’d potentially enjoy it into the process earlier in name of soliciting and integrating input into the next iteration. This not only minimizes waste, it changes the psychology of creation by adding more certainty earlier in the game and encouraging consistent, incremental action.

These five strategies and practices can change the way you experience the creative process in a profound way. They’ll not only allow you to tap a reservoir of previously hidden creativity, they’ll also allow you to experience any creative endeavor with a far deeper sense of equanimity and joy.

So change your Fears to Positive Fuel to Live Boundrylessly !!

Which are you feeding to be Boundryless??

 

Passionately Living our Dreams

Passionately Living our Dreams

Read, Learn, Enjoy …..

A Cherokee elder sitting with his grandchildren told them, “In
every life there is a terrible fight — a fight between two wolves.

One is evil: he is fear, anger, envy, greed, arrogance, self-pity,
resentment and deceit. The other is good: joy, serenity, humility,
confidence, generosity, truth, gentleness, and compassion.”

A child asked, “Grandfather, which wolf will win?”

The elder looked him in the eye. “The one you feed.”

Which wolf are YOU feeding ?

Think a moment…..

Are you focused on what you’re lacking, what you’re missing out on,
what someone said about you?

OR….

Are you focused on what you have now, what you’re determined to passionately work
hard to get along with how you feel about yourself ?

If it’s the first make the determination ….

Right Here….

Right Now….

To starve that wolf
and things WILL get better.

Only You can change the results you’re experiencing and how you feel
about them in a heartbeat.

Simply ….

Stop feeding the bad wolf.

 

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Enjoy a Boundryless Day ….

Right Here…

Right Now….

It just takes ….

that first step!!!

Go for It!!!